Let’s start here. It is natural as mothers to feel responsible for everything. Including, but not limited to, the emotions, the laundry, the mouse in the basement, the kid who needs a shower, time with our spouse, eating too much, eating too little, the laundry, worrying about worrying, the outcome, the paying for things, the cooking for people, the laundry, the temptations our children may have, getting along, healthy food, healthy lifestyle, the laundry, the happiness of our people. The smooth and sensible running of a joyful family.
Even being a partial list, that’s a lot of things.
Years ago, an endearing quote was floated around, as sayings on wall hangings and such like. It went like this:
Dear______________, (put your name here)
Do not feel totally, personally, irrevocably responsible for everything.
That’s my job.
It’s cute and funny, like a cat poster.
But really. You, meaning you – do not need to be responsible for all the things. In fact, you don’t even need to FEEL responsible for all the things.
As human beings, we have one main job.
That’s what mammals are noted for, “raising their offspring in a warm and loving manner.” The better we all understand that and put it into practice, the better life we will have.
The better family we will build.
The better community we will cultivate.
Let’s start there.