But what about that mountain of laundry? HUH?!
Support me all you want, but what about the LAUNDRY??
First clue to successfully securing actual support. Don’t look to your non-supporters for help. They will tell you to put the kids in school. And you might want to. But if you WANT to homeschool your kids and want it to be joyful (assuming that you read my blog because that’s your goal) then align yourself with those who are not going to undermine what you do and how you do it.
If you have resources to do so, hire help. There are probably lovely homeschooled teens in your area who would love the extra money and experience of being a mom’s helper. Mom’s helper is a catch-all term, which is great and so much better than just a cleaning lady (there’s a place for that, but most of us can’t afford it…). If you find a helper who is homeschooled as well, their schedule will jive better with yours.
Mom’s helper can help with kids, cleaning, dinner, laundry, shopping, whatever it is that you need most on any given day. Ideally, work with someone you can keep around for a few years, so good for your relationship and they with your kids. I had a mom’s helper for several years who was my dream-girl and to this day my own memories and my kids are so fond. I would hire her on and off for several years for one or two afternoons a week. Lifesaver for me. Good experience for her, something to put on a future resume. She may well be reading this, and she’ll know who she is – a mom herself now. My older daughters as adults did a fair bit of mom’s helper work as their summer employment or “after school job.”
WIN, WIN. DOUBLE WIN. Support each other, by getting the work done. Support each other by laughing and crying together. Allow your children to build the relationships. Build each other up. Worth the effort. I’ve done things with another mom like fold laundry, sort clutter, make dinner, pre-make breakfast and lunch stuff to make the day go smoother. Sometimes it was impromptu, and sometimes planned. A couple of years we even took a week in the summer and powered through meals, sorting, laundry and other stuff to help each other.
I’ve known moms who’ve traded days. I take your kids for a day or afternoon, a different day, you take mine. Or traded skills. I’ll teach your kids writing and you teach them chemistry. Or sewing. Or how to ride a horse. Put it out there.
Don’t be shy about your needs and what you can give, too. Build your community so you know who you can put it out there to. Put out into the deep, my friends.